Wingman First Draft Revised -

Wai Sing Lam
November 27, 2010
Wing-Man Research Paper
First Draft

There have always been men in the world who have had trouble with picking up women. These are the men, who have experienced stress several times, where they could not find the words to say to a woman. Stress is the reason, why men need to rely on each other for help to finding a woman that all men look for. Men need to stick together as a group to assist their fellow men, by being their wing-man and by showing their moral support in hopes to receive the attention and interests of available single women. In the articles, "Wing-men in the Wings", "The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the Performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity", and “The Dating Wing-Man. Helping the Lovelorn Is All In a Day’s Work", describes the situation where the wing-man is both supportive and reliable in helping men find women. All men should get a wing-man, for when men lose hope about themselves, when they see a woman they like. People need to see that men and wing-men are a team, where one man is giving advice and other man must take the action when approaching a woman.

All men need the wing-man to provide them with moral support, by giving men the advice that could help attract a woman. People have wonder how wing-men are helpful in benefiting men towards finding a woman to be with. Wing-Men are men who are used to make the other guy look good when he approaches a woman. The wing-man must help the man find the right women for them, by providing helpful advice on what they need to do. The wing-man needs to tell the man what to say and what to look for in a woman. Men giving advice to other men is a way that builds a heterosexual bond between the too, where both men could depend on each other when putting up women. Mr. Malov show a heterosexual bond of comfort when giving advice to a group of single men. Andrew Adam Newman in Wing-men in the Wings claims "If you have an energetic personality, go out with someone more relaxed because he'll complement you more and determining who will be the wing-man and who the pilot in each encounter. Before you approach, agree who's going to talk to the 8-on-a-scale-of-10 and who will keep the 6 entertained, and don't switch in the middle."(p.1) Newman talks about a situation where one of the men must decide who is going to be the wing-man and who will be the one targeting the other woman. This is a key point to an effective wing-man, because it makes the other guy look good in front of the girls. Newman continues to mention that before the man approaches the woman, he must decide on who is going to be the talkative man and who is the entertaining man. If the wing-man teaches the man to be successful, he makes the man feel more superior and confident about himself. Thus, allowing the man to feel like a big-shot man by being above to hit on women with confident and success. Newman point is very important, because it allows both the wing-man and the man to build a strong bond of loyalty between the two. It allows both men to feel comfortable about helping and supporting each other when they pick up women. Even though wing-men are needed for giving great advice, another men to men bond for the wing-man is to keep the woman friend busy, while the other guy approaches and talks with the other woman.


All men need the moral support of a wing-man, so that their job to distract the woman friend could take place. Men need to support each other by allowing one man to be the wing-man so they could achieve the goal of finding that special someone for him. The wing-man must take full responsibility and look out for his friend no matter what. The wing-man must take the one woman friend away from the other one woman at any cost, even if the friend is ugly or unattractive. The wing-man must do his duty to help his fellow men in achieving success. The duty between the wing-man and the man helps build a strong heterosexual bond between the two. This heterosexual bond between the wing-man and the other man, allows both men to trust each other when they pick up women. Two students show the heterosexual bond of two men having full trust with each other while picking up women. David Grazien in The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity claims, "As we were beginning to mobilize ourselves and move towards the dance floor, James noticed Rachel, a girl he knew from Penn who he often told me about as a potential girlfriend. Considering James was seemingly into this girl, Dan and I decided to be good wing-men and entertain Rachel's friend, Sarah."(p.330) Grazian describes a situation, where the wing-man is used to assist a friend by taking away the girl's buddy. So, that the wing-man friend could talk with the girl alone without any possible distractions. The wing-man helping out his friend by taking over the girl one friend shows the bond of trust between him and his one guy friend. This does show a heterosexual bond between men, because the use of teamwork and loyalty helps make the wing-men look good, while at the same time help the other guy out. Men building the trust between each other help all men have a strong friendship and respect for each other. Both men will learn the value of friendship and loyalty from each other, when they work together to pick up women. All men need wing-men for the moral support to distract the woman girlfriend, but another main purpose of a wing-men is provide a location for single men to hook-up with single women.

All men must have a wing-man for moral support, so that the wing-man could assist their male friend by taking them to a location where a lot of single women hang out. The wing-man main job is to get their single man with a single women in one location. The wing-man must first go to a location, where there are a lot of single women waiting to meet single men. The wing-man must leave his guy friend, so he could be in the same location with the women he is after. This must happen after the wing-man has done his job taking away the woman girlfriend from the area. The wing-man giving men the location of single women is important, because it helps build a heterosexual bond between men. The heterosexual bond allows all men to feel confident with the help of a professional wing-man. Aaron Ellner is a professional wing-man, who is an expert in finding a great location with single women for men. In The Dating Wing-Man Helping the Lovelorn Is all In a Day Work the professional wing-man is described as "Through his company, The Dating Wingman, he offers phone and in-person Consultations to dole out relationship advice to the lovelorn, and he holds singles events at bars in New York City about once a month. The most recent, on June 24, was geared toward people ages 21 to 31 hoping to meet that special someone."(p.1) Appelbaum is saying that Aaron Ellner is a professional matchmaker who can hook up any man with that special someone they're after. Appelbaum provides the service Aaron has to struggling single men looking for the special someone. Location is important, because it gives the wing-man the ability to boost other men confident in their-selves. This will allow a heterosexual bond for the wing-man and the men, because location will allow men to feel less stressful, when trying to talk with a woman. The location is needed for the single man and woman to feel that special spark in their life for the first time. This is true, if the women is interested and feel the same way about the single man.


All men should use a wing-man and moral support to help them boost confidence and strength toward finding women. Men seem to search for girlfriends or wives, but many have failed, because their too nervous or have no confident to tell women how they feel. Men should request the help of a wing-man to find the type of women they're after and want to be with for all eternity. The wing-man gave very strong advice that I believe is accurate, clear, and very helpful in finding the type of women men desire. Wing-Men allow the services of helping single men find a location, where they could pick up single women. Wing-Men have helped many single men get with single women by being their go to guy. Wing-men are good people, because not a lot of people would take the time to help other men out with the ladies. Men should love the idea of having a go to guy to help them and make them look good. All men should get a wing-man, because they truly are the best people to go to, when guys need support and help with talking to women.


Works Cited

Appelbaum, Aliza. "The Dating Wing-man.Helping the Lovelorn Is All In a Day’s Work." Forward Newspaper. 13 July 2010, final ed.: Print.





Newman, Andrew. A. "Wing-Men in the Wings." New York Times. 25 March 2007, final ed.: Print.





Grazian, David. “The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the Performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity.” Men’s Lives. Michael S. Kimmel, Michael A. Messner, and Allyn & Bacon. New York. 8th edition (2010): 320-337 Print.