Wing-Man Research Paper First Draft

Wai Sing Lam
November 27, 2010

Wing-Man Research Paper First Draft


There have always been men in the world who have had trouble with picking up women. These are the men who experience it several times, where they could not find the words to say what they want to a women. This is why men need to rely on each other for assistant to finding a women that best suit the individual. Men need to stick together as a group to assist their fellow men by being their wing-man in order to boost the individual self-esteem. Men need each other as the wing-man and for moral support in hopes to receive the attention and potential hook-up of available single women. The articles like "Wing-men in the Wings", "The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the Performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity", and “The Dating Wing-Man.Helping the Lovelorn Is All In a Day’s Work", describe a situation where the wing-man are labeled as helpful, which they are. Men need of a wing-man is something men need when confident is lost or stress are up when they see a women they like. People don't know how helpful wing-men are at giving advice and other kinds of help.

Men need a wing-man to provide moral support by giving them helpful advice and a walk-through for a potential hookup. But, people wonder how wing-men are helpful and what they do that helps benefit the person. Wing-Men are required people who are used to make the other person look good when he approaches a woman. The wing-man must help the man find the right person for them by providing helpful confident builting advice. The wing-man needs to tell the person what to say and what to look for in a women. The article that shows effectiveness of a wing-man is a New York Times article by Andrew Adam Newman. According to Andrew Adam Newman article, Wing-men in the Wings, Newman said, "if you have an energetic personality, go out with someone more relaxed because he'll complement you more and determining who will be the wing-man and who the pilot in each encounter.""Before you approach, agree who's going to talk to the 8-on-a-scale-of-10 and who will keep the 6 entertained, and don't switch in the middle."(p.1) Newman talks about a situation where one of the men must decide who is going to be the wing-man and who will be the one targeting the main women. This is a key point to an effective wing-man, because it makes the other guy look good in front of the girls. Newman continues to mention that before the man approaches the women, he must decide on who is going to be the talking one and who is the fun entertaining one. This is essential important, because if the man can't decide on what to do, then this will embrass the wing-man in front of the ladies. Thus, making the wing-man weaker by messing up his flow and game he has with helping the individual. Overall, I 100% agree with Newman, because if the wing-man and the other men don't know what to do ,then your screwed. Meaning the wing-man has wasted their time and effort to help the other guy get with a women. The wing-man need to be able to give the advice to the individual, but first the guy must agree on who is doing what. Even though wing-man are needed for helpful advice, another requirement for the wing-man is to keep the women friend busy, while the other guy talks with the main women their targeting.


Men need to be able to rely on other men to be their wing-man for the chance to distract the women friend. Men need to support each other by allowing one men to be the wing-man so they could achieve the goal of finding that special someone for him. The wing-man must take full responsibility and look out for his friend no matter what. That mean the wing-man must take the women friend away from the main women at any cost, even if the friend is ugly or unattractive. The wing-man must do his duty to help his fellow men in achieving success. The wing-man success is described in an article by David Grazian about men hunting for a women, even with her friend with her. According to David Grazian article, The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity, Grazian said, "As we were beginning to mobilize ourselves and move towards the dance floor, James noticed Rachel, a girl he knew from Penn who he often told me about as a potential girlfriend." "Considering James was seemingly into this girl, Dan and I decided to be good wing-men and entertain Rachel's friend, Sarah."(p.330) Grazian indicates how the use of wing-men is effective and show how two friend look out for each other. Grazian example of Dan and James show how two friend respect and show loyalty toward one another. The wing-man distraction of the women friend show good teamwork and support among both men. I agree with Grazian, because teamwork and loyalty helps make the wing-men look good, while at the same time help the other guy out. Men do need wing-man moral support for distracting the female friend, but another main purpose of a wing-men is to lurk single men and women together in a public place.


Men must be able to rely on each other to be their wing-man for the chance to be taken a location with a lot of available single women. The wing-man main job is to get their single man with a single women in one location. The wing-man must first go to a place where there are a lot single women to be pick up by single men. The wing-man must leave his guy friend, so he could be in the same location with the women he is after. This must happen after the wing-man have done his job lurking away the women-friend from the area. Location is essentially important, because it is the wing-man job to help their struggling guy friend find that special someone in a public place. One man that show an example of this is Aaron Ellner who enjoy helping people find their special someone. According to Aliza Appelbaum article, The Dating Wing-man Appelbaum, said, "Through his company, The Dating Wingman, he offers phone and in-person Consultations to dole out relationship advice to the lovelorn, and he holds singles events at bars in New York City about once a month.""The most recent, on June 24, was geared toward people ages 21 to 31 hoping to meet that special someone."(p.1) Appelbaum is saying that Aaron Ellner is a professional matchmaker who can hook any person with the someone they're after. Appelbaum also mention the service Aaron provides to struggling singles looking for the special someone. these are essential important, because single men could use a coach and a location to hook up with women. Appelbaum also talks about how he set the location of all singles into one place, so that the singles could hookup up and meet their special someone there. I find location important for a wing-man, because men could rely on other men for advice and support, if they knew how to approach women in a well managed way. The location is needed for the single man and woman to feel that special spark in their life for the first time. This is true, if the women is interested and feel the same way about the single man.


All men should use a wing-man and moral support to help them boost confidence and strength toward finding women. Men have searched for potential girlfriends or wives for many years, but many have failed. Men should request the help of a wing-man to find the type of women their after and want to be able for all eternity. The wing-man give very strong advice that I believe is subjective, clear, and very helpful in finding the type of women men desire. Wing-Men are essentially important, Because men who are having a trouble time with talking or being around women will have an easier time with the present of a wing-man. Wing-Men provide services of giving men a place, where they could pick up single women is a life dream men should want to have. Wing-Men provide the service of allowing single men the benefit to separate a women friend from the main women in order to help men out. This is a good service, because not a lot of people would take the time to help other men out. Men should love the idea of having a go to guy to help them and make them look good. Men dream of having their chance of true love can be dream to them, but it can be a reality if they could go and find or hire a wing-man for themselves. If they do this, then they'll get a first hand experience on how hiring a wing-man was a good idea in the first place.













Works Cited




Appelbaum, Aliza. "The Dating Wing-man.Helping the Lovelorn Is All In a Day’s Work." Forward Newspaper. Forward Newspaper, 13 July 2010. Web. 20 Nov. 2010.




Newman,Andrew.A. "Wing-men in the Wings." New York Times. New York Times, 25 March 2007. Web. 20 Dec, 2010.




Grazian, David. "The Girl Hunt: Urban Nightlife and the Performance of Masculinity as Collective Activity." Symbolic Interaction. Society for the Study of Symbolic Interaction. 30.2 (2007: 320-337. Print.